Relax. Relate. Revive. 

 November 3, 2020

By  Jocelyn Hicks

As I’ve learned firsthand, overwork, stress, and sleep deprivation have profound effects on virtually every part of our lives.

Our current model of success is not working for anyone. It’s not working for women, and really, it’s not working for men either. 

We need to redefine success beyond money and power to include what success means to us and that to live a truly successful life, we need to integrate well-being, wisdom, wonder, and giving into our lives.

There are plenty of ways, techniques, and methods to destress and think one good day out 60 is good. If the method you’ve implemented is not a lifestyle change, meaning continued on a regular basis, then is it really working?  

Here are a three (3) ways to implement a path to lifestyle change.


Take a few minutes each day to develop a plan of action. When do you want to start? What do you want to implement? The who, what, when, where, why and how’s are very important to your goal of success.

Ask yourself – what can I do different and still be happy?

The answers are not as complicated as you may think. Simply turning off smart devices at night after a certain time can be a huge improvement to your sleep patterns and your overall day.

By disconnecting from the social swirl gives you more hours to sleep and voids the feeling of waking up tired.


Now you’ve got a plan of action, it’s time to Infuse. 

Meditation – There is more and more scientific evidence about the impact of mindfulness and meditation in our lives.

The list of all the conditions that these practices impact for the better—depression, anxiety, heart disease, memory, aging, creativity—the list goes on! Except this cure-all is real, and there are no toxic side effects.

Indeed, 2013 was the year when meditation and mindfulness finally and overwhelmingly stopped being seen as something to do.

Starting every morning with at least 20 to 30 minutes of meditation can change the focus of your day. If you’re just beginning, you can start by introducing 5 minutes of meditation into your day.

Even just a few minutes will open the door to creating a new habit—and all the many proven benefits it brings.

Sleep – Sleep is essential for a person’s health and wellbeing, according to the National Sleep Foundation (NSF). Yet millions of people do not get enough sleep and many suffer from lack of sleep. 

Busy people have busy lives and busy lives have lack of sleep. 

Psychologists and other scientists who study the causes of sleep disorders have shown that such problems can directly or indirectly be tied to abnormalities in the following systems:

physiological systems, brain and nervous system, cardiovascular system,  Metabolic functions and immune system.

Additionally, unhealthy conditions, disorders and diseases can also cause sleep problems, including: insomnia, accidents, hypertension and elevated cardiovascular risks (MI, stroke) Emotional disorders (depression, bipolar disorder) Obesity; metabolic syndrome and diabetes. Bottom line; get more sleep.

Nutrition – Eating a balanced diet is vital for good health and wellbeing.

Food provides our bodies with the energy, protein, essential fats, vitamins and minerals to live, grow and function properly. We need a wide variety of different foods to provide the right amounts of nutrients for good health. 

Good nutrition should be part of an overall healthy lifestyle, which also includes regular exercise, not smoking or drinking alcohol excessively, stress management and limiting exposure to environmental hazards. And no matter how well you eat, your genes play a big part in your risk for certain health problems.

But don’t underestimate the influence of how and what you eat. (See our post on healthy snacking)

Exercise – Regular physical activity can produce long term health benefits. People of all ages, shapes, sizes, and abilities can benefit from being physically active.

The more physical activity you do, the greater the health benefits. Daily walks, taking stairs instead of the elevator, bicycling or just cleaning and lifting things around the house will improve your overall health.

Physical activity increases your life span, elevates self esteem, sleep well and has proven to even encourage you to smile more. When you live healthy, you feel healthy.


In this chaotic world it’s easy to get lost in the mix and often we have to reconnect and rediscover ourselves.  In the end, your life has always been about YOU and your journey. It’s not only about the things we do but how we live our lives.

Reconnecting with yourself and how you find your Joy and Bliss is different for everyone. Only you know what steps help you the most. Here are seven ideas to get started. (See our post 25 ways to connect) 

  1. Reassess your priorities   
  2. Exercise, sleep and listen to your body – Your body is your temple. Treat it well.
  3. Simplify your life – Tour time is precious.  Spend it living your way. 
  4. Relax and Enjoy the simple things – When you are too busy, it’s hard to enjoy anything.
  5. Do what you Love – Make the time for YOU and what you enjoy out of life.
  6. Drop the useless stuff – Eliminate the non-essential stuff cluttering your life.
  7. Focus on what matters – Remind yourself often about what’s most important in your life.

The keys to changing and maintaining Lifestyle Management are balance, variety and moderation. To stay healthy, your body needs the right balance of everything that is important to you.

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Get Organized

Curb the insanity and get organized. Clean up and clean out. Disorganization leads to frustration, chaos and stress. This can be a life changing experience that once implemented, life will be so much easier.

Organize your spaces

Always look for ways to block unneeded items before they cross your threshold. Use the 80;20 rule when cleaning out closets and kitchens. We wear 20% of our clothes 80% of the time. We use 20% of all items in our kitchen 80% of the time.

Sort Your Clutter

Decisions are made easier once you’ve made piles of like items. Sort either by room, like items or seasonal.

Organize Your Clutter

Storing items in the room where they’re used helps ensure they get put away when you’re done, and usually it’s best to store similar items together. If it’s something you use frequently, make sure the storage place is easy to access.

Put Things Back

Once you’ve sorted the clutter, chosen the right containers, and assigned convenient homes for everything, take the time to put everything where it should go.

This shouldn’t take long at all if you’ve made all the decisions in advance. Don’t take any shortcuts, or they will come back to haunt you later.

Give every object a Home-Throwing out duplicates is one of the easiest ways to quell clutter. Her simple rule: One in, one out. Anytime you get something new, get rid of something like it that is old. 

Where will you put those old bank statements? Where should all those design notes go?

If you had a box for trash, go through those items and note what should have been thrown away. If you assign a convenient home to every item, you will be much more inclined to put them away.

Divide Time to organize

Some spaces, like kitchen counters, need daily de-cluttering. Others can be tackled weekly or monthly. Be patient — effective de-cluttering takes time. People tend to underestimate how much time it will take. If it looks like a two-hour job, budget four. And don’t get discouraged if de-cluttering takes longer than you think it should.

Delegate responsibilities

Make sure the person you appoint to do the task has all the tools necessary to do the task. Remember that most things are much better done than set aside for doing perfectly, and that doing them can teach the person (maybe a child) not only how to do them but how to address related problems. It’s hard to be organized if you insist on doing everything yourself.

Stop shopping 

– Clutter victims often think the solution is to stock up on organizing products, so they head to the nearest superstore and stock up on bins and boxes. Big mistake. People love to go out and buy containers, but getting organized does not start out with a shopping trip. Shop for storage items only after you’ve done some de-cluttering .

Get a  planner

​The key to getting organized is being organized. Don’t lose the momentum after you’ve found every object a home. 

Jocelyn Hicks

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